Sorry I’ve been missing for a couple months. I had an ethical dilemma; although none of the women were identified nor identifiable, I was unsure if it was OK for me to be posting their stories, being that they are so intimate and painful. But speaking with some women I work with, they would much rather me share their experience and educate others.
The topic that I am interested in discussing in this post is the show Snapped. Apparently, which I did not know, the show does not need the woman’s consent to do the show. This is absurd to me because, not only is the segment ABOUT them, but it portrays them in a horrible, skewed light. One woman I work with at the facility came into the group and mentioned that she had spoken to a family member and her show was aired. She later explained that she gave no consent whatsoever, she tried to fight them with no luck, and people from her community sold her pictures and gave interviews. As if she was an entertainment attraction! How ridiculous…
I, myself, have only caught two episodes of this show. I was turned off automatically by the introduction, flashing “greed” and “lies” across the screen. Overall, the show portrays these women as “female murderers.” I may be biased, seeing only two episodes, but the ones I have viewed and the story of the woman mentioned above were of a woman that was abused and was courageous enough to choose survival over death. This woman did not want to hurt anyone; she wanted to survive, much like you and I and every other mammal on this Earth!
Anyways, the two episodes I have seen completely minimized the factor of abuse. Out of the 60-minutes of the show, maybe 30 were spent on how vicious, cold-blooded, and horrible the women were and about 3.5 minutes basically said oh yeah she was abused all her life, as a child and as a girlfriend and as a wife, but let’s go back to how horrible she is and how she is a MURDERER! How could she do such a thing?!?!?! Um, well because she was abused all her life!!!! As a woman who works with abused women, I can identify this cause-and-effect relationship. Not only that, I notice the 3.5 minutes where they discuss what has happened to the main character, the “murderer.”
A show like this is pathetic. It uses these horror-story lives to get ratings. To be honest, people love gory murder stories; in my opinion, they’re going to hear murderer and want to tune in anyway. These shows, I think, should include a psychologist, social worker, victim, ANYONE to just add an extra 8 minutes of how often abuse happens, what effects it has, ANYTHING! Our society needs to be educated about this topic. It is so easy to look at the dead person and label him as a victim. Sure, some of these men were wonderful when sober… or with their kids… or on a good day. But does that make it ok to point fingers at the woman? She is also a victim. If she wasn’t a victim, she wouldn’t be behind bars or at an emergency shelter.
Basically, the point of this post is to keep this in mind if you watch this sad excuse for a show. I’m not saying don’t watch it; my guilty pleasure is Bad Girls Club so I’m no one to tell you what you can and cannot watch. But when you do let your braincells melt while watching this for an hour, keep your eyes and ears open for the domestic abuse in MOST (not all) of the “documentary.” And always remember that there are three sides to every story – both sides and the truth.